[ How to over come the fears of change ]

Normally people are afraid to accept change whether it
is good or bad. Fears of change to be defeated to succeed
in life. The life comprise of ups and downs. No body can
be in a permanent ascending trend, because that is not
possible and no body can avoid that.

However the most important thing is not how to avoid
changes, fears and bad experiences but how to learn from
them. It is crucial not to let problems overwhelm you,
but to know how to use them in your favor for your
success.

There is no doubt that any problem will affect us, which is
normal because we have feelings. But every problem would
make us stronger. That is the reason the specialist in this
subject has always recommended to analyze and meditate
on the worst situation you had to deal with in the course of
your life. Try to learn from your mistakes so that they will
prepare you for the changes or less pleasant situations to come.

There are beliefs in the olden days that every single
situation of our lives take place with a pre-determined
reason. And also people thoughts that life prepare us
for certain events to come, so that if we focus more
attention on our previous experiences, we will understand
many things from the present.

It is also true that the unexpected can happen anytime.
However please keep in mind that a change is not always
for the worst.Since you are afraid to take the risk some
time you may miss a chance.

Please keep in mind something has to happen in order
to free you from monotony. So do not get surprised
if a certain moment in time, instead of being afraid of
change, you like it with all your heart.

If you are not in a position to understand what a certain
change in your life, really means, here is a list of tips
that might help you to get organized.

1.Try to think the positive impact only that will result
after the change.See how important they are and
meditate upon how to multiply by adding some other
good aspects. In this line you may need some assistance.
2. In one situation if you realize that other person can
handle the change, you can be sure you will be able to
handle it as well.
3.Imagine the worst situation that can be the result after
the change,try to find many solutions to it. Meditate
on how much you can loose if worst happened. At the
same time look how important those things to you.

If you find more than one reasonable solution, you
are safe. The change can't be stronger than you are.